How To Get Someone To Clean Up After Themselves

Do you complete your job by cleaning your shift but your partners or family members don’t show interest to clean his/her part?

Yes! You are thinking right. You can’t alone complete the cleaning task yourself daily.

Is this happening with you and want to get someone to complete the cleaning job after yourself?

Scheduling the cleaning tasks with other persons is the best way to keep your house clean and fresh.

In this post, you’ll know different methods to get someone to clean up after themselves or help someone to clean their house.

However, first and foremost. A question arises!

What is considered a dirty house?

There is a vast distinction between being messy and being dirty.  There are many things to take into consideration when determining if a house is dirty or messy.

Messy is a pile of dishes in the sink; dirty is food stuck on the counter. Messy is moving things around to “organize them,” while dirty usually involves a sponge and some Clorox.

If you consider the house to be “messy” then you consider it a duty. If the house is dirty you just say it is dirty and move along. Dirty is when you have a rotten smell coming from the kitchen, dust pilling up on tables, trash lying on the floor.

Is there any physiological reason for being a slob? 

Your answer is: Could be!

Physiological reasons could be hoarding disorder, Diogenes syndrome, or depression.  Telling such a person to clean their filthy house can be irrelevant. They’re quite unaware and find it repulsive to them. 

They could be more knowledgeable than you are but due to physiological reasons, they are being a slob or reasons why the person is messy. 

As mentioned above he might be messy due to lack of time and lack of hands. You should try to understand and study them and help them accordingly.

Messiness and Mental illness because of unhygienic house

Clutter in the home is a typical issue. Extreme clutter, on the other hand, is a sign of hoarding, a dangerous psychological problem associated with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) that necessitates treatment.

One of the syndromes is Diogenes which is often related to mental illness OCD. Diogenes syndrome is a mental illness that affects older people. Excessive hoarding, filthy houses, and poor personal hygiene are the main signs. Diogenes syndrome causes people to retreat from life and society. 

While the cause of hoarding and Diogenes syndrome is unknown experts agree it is important for a hoarder to seek professional care as soon as symptoms appear.

Genuinely Understand: Messy house Depression

Depression, on the other hand, comes with its own set of life-related issues. One of these is the self-fulfilling cycle of depression and a messy home. Cleaning your house is high on the priority list of things you have to do while you’re having a depressed episode.

Then again standing in the middle of a mess with no clue of where to start is depressive. You feel worse about the mess and this results in exhaustion and making you feel hopeless and useless.

So your depression gets worse, and your mess gets worse, and the two keep feeding on each other and it seems like there’s no end in sight. However you can disturb the cycle, it requires a shift of thinking. You have the accomplishment to focus on. You start with something. You don’t have to do everything.

If you’re worried about how to support someone who lives in the dirt, remember that you can’t make them change. However, you can create a supportive environment that encourages your loved ones to seek help and allows them to recover.

How to help someone who doesn’t clean their house?

If you’re concerned about someone living in the dirt, reach out to them and help them figure out what’s causing the build-up. 

Throughout this section, you will learn about people living in squalor, their causes, symptoms, and what you may be able to do to help them.

Here are the simple steps you can take to help a slob reclaim/Clean their space and their lives.

Do a Calm Conversation About Decluttering and Cleaning

A crucial first step is to openly and acceptably discuss the hoarding problem and potential solutions. When discussing your plans to assist, highlight the concepts of security and secrecy.

One of the most important things to remember while working with a hoarder is to meet them where they are. They are the owners of their stuff; they are the ones in charge of the process.

Don’t offend them by saying their stuff is “clutters”, “unsanitary” or “trash”.

Set Goals and stick to it 

When assisting someone with hoarding tendencies, it’s critical to set goals. Make realistic and reachable goals to keep everyone engaged.

Clearing space indoors and corridors to improve accessibility, clearing an area where they’d feel comfortable hosting guests, or organizing and relocating items to a storage room are all examples.

It’s not about fixing the person or expecting them to do things right away. It’s about buying time for you both to improve the situation temporarily.

Do recognize the positive change

Hoarding does not occur overnight, and it will not be resolved quickly. If you find your loved one cleaning or organizing a little space or deciding to consult a professional, encourage and applaud them.

Your love and support will go a long way toward assisting a hoarder in getting back on track and staying there. Praise them for the little cleanliness they do and support them in such tasks.

Another option is to play a reward-punishment game. If someone completes a cleaning task you’ll reward them with gifts, and if they don’t complete the task you’ll punish them by not providing Internet access, mobile phones etc.

Develop a Strategy and Schedule for Cleaning

It is more challenging to clean your house if you are a working mom or a couple. You can either assign the task to your children or someone else to clean up the interior and exterior spaces, or you can simply follow a cleaning schedule for working couples and mothers which helps to keep the stuff clean.

Work with your loved ones to come up with a plan that they like and are willing to try. Taking on rooms one at a time is the most manageable strategy to assist a slob in cleaning their home.

Determine which rooms you’ll tackle first and how much time you’ll have to devote to each. Help them make a list of criteria to use when evaluating whether or not an item can be discarded.

Making a cleaning checklist with daily, weekly, and monthly duties would make things a lot easier while also ensuring that the person does the work regularly. This also prevents additional messes and grime from accumulating.

Explain the effect of the clean home on his physical and mental health

Talk about how living in a mess is affecting his physical and mental health. Encourage him by describing the benefits of cleaning to his health and well-being.

Cleaning and decluttering can be calming and can help to relieve anxiety. Physical work that you conduct while performing jobs can keep you physically fit.

A good-smelling home can always have a beneficial impact on your mind and body.

How to help someone who lives in filth –“Don’ts”

Forcing someone to change, like with many psychiatric diseases and personal reasons, is typically ineffective and can even make the situation worse. 

As you help to clean someone’s place, there are some things you should avoid doing.

• Don’t remove things from the squalor’s home without their consent.
• Don’t enable the behavior
• Don’t expect the cleaning process to happen overnight
• Don’t clean up for them
• Don’t expect perfection
• Don’t label their possessions as trash or unessential

Final Word

No matter how much we want someone we love to have a neat and tidy home and live a fulfilling life, we can’t force them to throw away everything they own to ensure a clean house.

If they show symptoms of hoarding and OCD, be there for them and get them professional help. 

Cleaning up for them and hiring a cleaning service won’t do any good in the long term.  Help them in the process by following our tips and make sure you are not doing those “don’ts” mentioned above.

If you have any ideas about ways of helping or motivating others to keep their house clean, don’t forget to share them by writing a comment below